Chores are a vital part of family living. Everyone-- son, daughter, mom, and dad-- should have weekly chores.
We all know it's easier to do the tasks yourself, but you'll be doing your child a disservice if he isn't assigned jobs around the house.
Chores teach responsibility and self-discipline. Developing skills for independent living chores can counteract ADHD behavior problems. Children with attention deficit disorder (ADHD) are happy when they feel like contributing members of the family.
Household tasks help a child with ADHD feel like an essential member of the family. Because he may be more criticized for his behavior at school and away from home, it is crucial that he knows the family needs him. Choose chores that you know he can complete. This will build self-esteem.
What Are The Right Chores?
When assigning chores, consider what motivates him along with his ability to do the task. Then teach your child the job in small steps. For example, you want your seven-year-old to set the dinner table. Sit with him, count out the number of plates needed and show him where they go. Now count all the forks, knives, and spoons required.
Make sure he is clear on his task, step by step. Some pictures of the steps can be printed out and place next to his chore board until the chore becomes a routine.
Because he's done it once before doesn't mean he is ready to do it on his own every time. Your kid will need reminders and a little supervision to keep them on track. Give them praise and encouragement for the effort, even if they don't measure up to your expectations. After they can repeat what is expected of them, don't reward them unless the job completed.
Set a Deadline
Establishing a time frame-- "Lily, I want the table set by 5:30"-- will motivate her to finish the task. We allow our daughter to start a timer on Alexa or Siri. When the deadline has passed, but the chore is unfinished, ask she if she understood what she was supposed to do. Also, ask if she needs help. Usually, she will take offense and prove that she is capable. If that does work, explain that she will not get the reward and that you expect her to better next time.
"We try to show Colton that a family works together," explains his mother, Emily. "For example, if Colton does his chores, we will have extra time to play or be with him. If not, we'll spend that time doing his chores".
Be Consistant With Rewards
We all do things we don't like to do. As adults, we call it work. When we do work, we usually get paid. Everyone feels better when the expectations are clear and the rewards are consistent. Kids feel the same way. Real money works best. Kids perceive the value of money differently depending on their age.
"In our home, chores are done on a paid-for basis. Each chore is worth so much. My husband and I felt our son should learn that you have to work for what you want." Stephanie says, "I started with a simple chore list with each reward written down on a piece of paper. Later we used a magnetic chore chart to help Aaron learn to count with coins. He loves using the life-size coins to add to the board himself."
I hope this helps. If you have any questions, please reach out.
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